"High Fidelity", pg.90

"...And before you judge, although you have probably already done so, go away and write the worst four things that you have done to your partner, even if -especially if- you partner doesn't know about them. Don't dress these things up, or tray to explain them; just write them down, in a list, in the plainest language possible. Finished?
OK, so who's the arsehole now?".